Country Girl

My husband accused me of being a city girl the other day, which I found very disconcerting. When I told my kids this they commented; ” but you never even wear clean clothes to town, you always have dirty knees and your muddy boots on, how could you possibly be considered a city girl ? ” I wondered too what he’d meant. I’ve lived in the country for twenty six years now, longer than I ever lived in the city ( suburbia). Gardening and working hard; in tractors, backhoes, trucks and mostly on a shovel. I always built gardens where ever I’d lived in that time, also cleared land, built houses, ran my own companies. Was I really a city girl ?

My husband is very hard to pin down, never a straight answer from him or his family ( is this a country trait? ). So I had to follow after him trying to question him about what he meant. It took me a few days of questions to get down to it; I didn’t have faith that everything would be provided for. That bartering, working hard, taking care of others, being a good neighbor, would stand me in good stead for the things we couldn’t provide ourselves. That city people always had to worry about how to “afford ” things, country people figured out how to ” make it work, or make do with what you got”.

I think it might be true, I don’t let myself just farm because I’m too worried we won’t get by financially. I always have to run around gardening for others to satiate my anxiety (although I also love it too) . Maybe I still don’t understand what it means to live on very little. But it seems so hard as well , what about insurances? Car tires and repairs? Gas? Shoes ? As we pair our life down to the bare necessities to be able to farm year round, what do we really have to make to live ?

I think also, what about the infrastructure we still need to put in place here ? How can we afford to do that ? But the reality is that whenever we are getting another aspect of a project clarified, my husband runs out and ” finds” most of the items we would have bought, for free or for some exchange. We have been splitting redwood buckskins for fence posts, straightening bent T posts thrown away in the vineyard for our fences. Collecting left over fencing from where ever we find it. Maybe our fencing the next five acres won’t cost the fortune I thought ! Now if I wasn’t working so much outside, I might have the time to put that fencing up.

3 Replies to “Country Girl”

  1. i don’t much like labels but you were never a “city” girl… i always thought of you as organic & creative. sometimes i think we “worry” enough that they don’t feel the need to, that seemed to come for me with having children. those thoughts take joy out of the present moment so i try to catch myself when having them and repeat in my head, “LET GO” (even drew myself a sign!)

    have you checked out Pioneer Woman website? now that’s a city girl turned country girl!

    1. Thanks for what I think of as a compliment ! I think it’s really coming for me with menopause, it’s easier to trust and try not to move so fast, because I can’t ! Although I’m still climbing trees which was one of my goals when I was young.

      I loved reading Pioneer woman’s love story. She really is encouraging of others and such a great writer and photographer. Although I want to go out there and build her a garden ! She should try to eat more from the garden . Have you looked at Mary Jane’s Farm? I Her B&B w/ wall tents is my all time favorite. I got her very first magazine and have been hooked ever since.

      When are you going to come out for a visit?

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